Introducing: Butterflies Blessings; What I want to achieve.

I wanted to answer exactly WHAT the purpose of my called ministry is.

I want to be an ADVOCATE for moms who are going through stillbirth.
I want to REDUCE the number of divorces/suicides caused by this tragedy, just by being there.
I want to reduce the amount of trauma this kind of tragedy can cause, by providing the mom with control over her birth, hope for her future, and resources.
I want to witness for them, witness the care they recieve, and reassure them that life goes on just by being there.. as my nurse was there.
 I want to assist them in rainbow births... that is, the birth of a subsequent child... as the fears will come back during that time.. and PTSD tends to overcome during that time. I want to make their experience in labor PRECIOUS.
I want to assist parents and family member in grieving.
And more than that, I want to show them God's love, grace, and compassion.. just as my doula did for us.

Selfishly, I want to meet my daughters new friends, face to face... and I want to know them by name.

If anything... I want to give these families hope in HIM. In his plan for their lives.. plans to prosper, and not to harm... plans to give them a future..

If I can give that to ONE family... every moment of my life from now on, will be validated.
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I can't WAIT for this journey.

Becoming A "Full Service" Bereavement Doula: What I want to do...

I wanted to answer some questions about what I want to do as a Bereavement Doula. First thing, I want to be able to help moms who have found out that their precious baby will not be coming home, or won't stay very long. It also means, I will be able to help moms who have found out their babies will not survive, and are chosing the very hard choice of giving birth to their baby early. I will also be able to help moms who are chosing to have an abortion, no matter the reasons. Secondly, I want to be a support for the mom DURING the process. A Bereavement Doula helps the mom have the labor, and delivery, they want. It's the one thing they can still control, within reason. Natural, or C-section, and everything in between.. I will be able to help them make choices. I will be able to provide laboring methods, music, calming scents, and "hold the space" for the mom. After the birth, I will be able to assist with Post-Partum choices.. including Milk-Donation, drying up, and offer options for the time they have with their precious child. Third, I will be able to assist the family, the entire family in the grieving process. This is where not only Bereavement training, but grief counseling will come into play. Giving them full support is important, because after this hard event, it is very difficult to allow people in to help. You tend to cling onto a select group who truely understand your hardships, and won't be judgemental. I want to be able to give them a safe place where they can seek help, and get outside resources if necisarry. Fourth, I will be able to photograph their precious labor, birth, and the moments with their child. Getting trained as a photographer will allow me to capture these moments properly, and give them memories that will last forever. Being trained by NILMDTS will allow me to be able to not only capture the moments by the moms who know their child has passed, but also for the moms who, like I, had no idea until they were born... or their child passed shortly after birth to complications. I also will be able to provide items they might not have thought to bring.. like hand print/foot print molds, memory items, pacifiers, photo props, and a wrap to hold their baby close. Creating memories the family will never forget. Lastly, I will be able to provide them life time support, even through Rainbow baby births (the birth of a child after a loss). The birth process of rainbow babies, can be difficult, scary, full of regret, full of joy, and can bring complications of its own sort. Being able to help the mom celebrate their angel child, as well as their rainbow in these times will be irreplaceable to the moms. I hope this helps you understand exactly what I want to provide to mothers... and I hope you can understand that this will be financially defening, and also require a lot of time. If you feel it in your heart to donate for these moms, it would allow us to keep the stress off of our family, and provide more to these moms. Each birth, will cost about $500 in materials, and roughly $200 in travel/cost for me.. less and more depending. Even if you cannot donate, but would like to pray for my family through this, that is more than enough! We have faith that God will continually provide in this journey. If you have any advice, or know of a good contact/resource, please Email me @ KristinaMSeymour@gmail.com Thanks! <3

Bereavement Doula Training: How you can help me achieve my Goals!

It's been laid on my heart that it is my path to become a Bereavement Doula, and to be trained as a grief counselor, and also take some photography courses.

Once I become certified, I can then offer my services, for free, to mom's who are facing the difficult task of laboring and birthing their child who is not going to come home.

Some of these moms, do not have a partner. They were going to be single moms, and now have to go through this process alone. Some have faithful partners, and some have rocky relationships. In all cases, dealing with a Stillbirth can be the hardest thing parents have to face. I want to ease that burden, and assist them in any way possible.

Obviously, none of these trainings are free, and there is a lot of equiptment I'm going to need in order to be the best resource to these moms as possible.

Items I will need, with their approximate costs are:

Tens Unit: $150

Rescue Remedy: $10

Hot Water Bottle: $10

Birthing Ball: $30

Tens Pads: $10

Chapstick: $3 each

Waterbugs and Dragon Flies: $7 each

Rebozo: $50

Camera: $300

Mini Fan: $12

Scripture Card Set: $20

Batteries and SD Cards: $20 per birth

Lavendar Oil: $12

Tissues: $1

Memory Box Items: $50 per birth

Sibling Set: $15 per sibling

Stillbirthday Training: $250

Micropremie-newborn outfit: $20

Blanket: $15

Handprint kit: $10

Hand/foot print molds: $10

Necklace for mom: $25

Keychain for Dad: $10

Hair lock holder: $5

Grief Share Basic kit: $355 + $15 per extra book

Intro to photography: $155

Intermediate photography: $155

Photography props/lights: $350 +

Other materials: $50 per birth

We were going to have a baby, but had an angel instead: $15

Someone I loved, died: $15

NILMDTS training: $49

Grief counseling training: $150-500

Obviously, this is going to be an expensive endevour, but I trust that God will provide in every aspect of it.

If you have any of these items you are not using, and would like to gift them to me, please Email me! If you would like to donate, I have set up a donation site. http://www.gofundme.com/4re490

Obviously, prayers are the BEST thing you can give us! So please keep this adventure in your prayers, and these moms in your hearts.

<3 KristinaMSeymour@gmail.com