This is officially what I'm calling life post stillbirth. Re-life.
EVERYthing has changed so dramatically.. yet things are still the same.
My husband still works long hours.. and wakes early in the morning.
My kids still eat 5 times a day, and have a bedtime routine.
I still have PWOC, friends, and things to go do.
Really, the only thing that has changed is the way I see things now.
Sure... I set up a nursery, and tore it down. I carried an infant for 9 months.. just to say goodbye to her the moment I said hello... but really. Life hasn't changed.
Yes.
I cry. A LOT. I also cried when we tried to concieve for 3 months with no sucsess... and lo and behold we were pregnant month 4. I know these tears will pass, and the smiles of remembering her will grow... they already have become more prominate in my life.
SO. Now i have to re-live.
We've fallen out of routine.. and I haven't kept up with things i should.. and we are switching the nursery to my eldests room, and taking out the playroom to create a haven space for me... a place where we can sit, play instruments, invite friends in to cry and chat.. a place to really live.
I'm not really sure where to start.. Laundry I guess is a good place.
If anyone wants to help me Re-Live.. I'd appreciate it!
Share your favorite blogs/housetips.. anything! My mind has been lost in stillbirth land.. and I need to re-learn about everything!
Household Tips (that I should learn to follow myself): Set a chore schedule/checklist (for example write down things that need to be done daily, weekly, biweekly, etc. Also assign days for certain tasks) Once completed mark it off. Repeat the following week/month/etc. Get children involved in cleaning (At Aiden's age and even possibly Brice's, they are old enough to be able to "wipe down" the bathroom mirror, sink and put their clothes in the hamper)-you can make this fun for them by creating a song/game out of it.
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