Does knowing WHY your child was taken help?

This was a question that was asked in a support group I'm apart of on facebook... the mom wanted to know, thinking she might cope better with it if she had answers.

This was my response:

For me... it didn't help. We knew almost immediately that it was a placental abruption after she was born (it basically fell out..) We tried to find out if a clotting disorder was the cause of the abruption..but it wasn't. It was just fate. Anger I think resenates in the face of wishing there was a different outcome. If you KNEW why, as we know the placental abrupution caused it.. would it change anything? No. There are still chances of it happening again.. yes... and there are no TRUE preventions of it. Knowing why just solidifies that there was no alternative... and makes the idea of that loss happening again more conclusive. Does that make any sense? What caused our babies to grow their wings, is simple. They weren't meant to be on earth... they were too precious, fragile, and loved. I take solice in the fact that this world is a place of hardships, evils, and wrong-doers.... and that she was saved from facing all of that.. yet was still CREATED. She still IS. No one can take her existance away.. yet no one can stomp on her innocence. Knowing that a placental abruption took Soph's life, only makes it more difficult to concentrate on her LIFE.. instead.. I refer to her loss from that event. There is never "coping better"... you just live your new normal.. and face every thought, lie, and challenge as it comes.